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Consent, part 1

Didn’t we already do a Consent episode? Well, yes, a couple of them…

… but this important topic is something that should be in the forefront of everyone’s mind during any spanking activities.

And clearly some of these points have fallen on deaf ears. So we’re back to talk about consent with some recent personal examples.

To be blunt: Consent can be the difference between a spanking and sexual assault! 

Tops need to listen and comply with the safe words when they’re used.
Bottoms have to use their safe words when needed and vocalize their boundaries and limits.
Communication, whether verbal or non verbal is key for enjoyable scenes. 

Consent isn’t always sexy – negotiation can be awkward, but it’s necessary! We talk about some of the go-to questions before you negotiate a scene with someone new. Have others we don’t cover here? Let us know!

Some of the Spanko!Podcast spankees have had less than pleasant scenes this past year, and we want everyone to learn these important topics with spanking so everyone can have a good time!  

You live and learn to be more explicit with your limits so that your boundaries are not crossed. We hope our experiences can help you learn to avoid some of these pitfalls.


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Spanking Meet Up Stories

Hear the spankoholics tell stories of meeting up with spankos for the first time. We tell some stories from when we were new in the scene. Mistakes were made, pranks went wrong, lessons were learned in what not to do and negotiations to stay safe in the scene.

We hope that you can learn from our stories and keep yourselves safe when meeting with fellow spankos!


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Safety & Negotiations

Do we really need to negotiate? How important is it that everyone in a scene is on the same page? Are there other ways to keep yourself safe at a party?

As parties begin opening up, we thought we’d take this opportunity to review some safety tips and offer a FREE (brief) CLASS on Negotiations.

Remember, if you don’t feel safe… you’re gonna have a bad time.



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