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Episode 0159 – Self-Advocacy pt. 1

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Self-Advocacy pt. 1

Yes, I’d like fries with that!

It’s not just a delicious, salty treat, but also an easy acronym for ensuring consent.
F.R.I.E.S. is an easy way remember that consent is: 

  • F: Freely Given
  • R: Reversible
  • I: Informed
  • E: Enthusiastic
  • S: Specific

If your consent doesn’t have F.R.I.E.S. then you might not fully enjoy your “meal” or play experience.

After a lovely class at GASP 2026, in which they used candy to discuss consent, and went through some fantastic role-playing, we had to have these lovely and hard-working ladies on the podcast to share their techniques for self-advocacy in spanking! 

It’s not easy to speak up for yourself, especially when many of us love to please our partners. But that’s exactly what being your own advocate is about. And for a fun scene, it’s important not just to please your partner, but to get your needs met and protect your own boundaries as well. 

Whether it’s salty or sweet, F.R.I.E.S. or candy, this discussion has something for every taste. 

There was just too much here for one episode, so do stay tuned for part 2.

 

 

 

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Episode 0142 – Vetting

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Vetting

What is vetting?

If you’ve been to a spanking party before, you’ve probably heard this term, and have probably even been vetted: it’s the background check done to keep everyone at the party as safe as possible.

But it’s not just for parties, this is good for one-on-one play as well. 

How is vetting done? What should you expect? Well, there’s many ways to vet someone. But we discuss a few tips that we’ve used, have seen used, and have been involved with in the past, for both Tops and Bottoms alike.

So, if you’re interested in attending a spanking event, or even hosting a spanking event, or even want to keep yourself safe in one-on-one play (and who doesn’t?), and want to learn more about the vetting process, we hope this episode will give you some good tips to get started.

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Episode 0093 – Spanko Communication

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Spanko Communication

Miss Shaylah, Sarah (from Canada), and Mr. Ben are back! This time we’re talk about communication: how to, when to, why to, and how to be sure you are staying within your bubble?…whatever that means. 

We dive into important topics like practicing your bratting skills, bratting within limits, knowing and enforcing your limits, the importance of knowing your Top’s limits and methods to communicate those subtly. This helps keep bratting fun for everyone, just as it should be!

Hmmmm I don’t think Mr. Ben ever dealt with that language from Sky… but there’s still time 😉     

Additionally we discuss Mr. Ben’s uniform, Brat Spice, and Occupational Hazards for Tops….. THAT discussion our Bottom listeners won’t want to miss!!

 

Episode 0063 – Consent, part 2

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Consent, part 2

As if one episode on Consent wasn’t enough, here is part two!
Didn’t we already do a Consent episode? Well, yes, a couple of them…

… but this important topic is something that should be in the forefront of everyone’s mind during any spanking activities.

And clearly some of these points have fallen on deaf ears. So we’re back to talk about consent with some recent personal examples.

To be blunt: Consent can be the difference between a spanking and sexual assault! 

Tops need to listen and comply with the safe words when they’re used.

Bottoms have to use their safe words when needed and vocalize their boundaries and limits.

Communication, whether verbal or non verbal is key for enjoyable scenes. 

Consent isn’t always sexy – negotiation can be awkward, but it’s necessary! 

You live and learn to be more explicit with your limits so that your boundaries are not crossed. We hope our experiences can help you learn to avoid some of these pitfalls.

If your consent is broken or your safe word is ignored and your boundaries are not respected, here are some helpful resources for sexual assault victims:

 

 

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Episode 0062 – Consent, part 1

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Let's talk about consent. Freely Given, Reversable, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific

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Consent, part 1

Didn’t we already do a Consent episode? Well, yes, a couple of them…

… but this important topic is something that should be in the forefront of everyone’s mind during any spanking activities.

And clearly some of these points have fallen on deaf ears. So we’re back to talk about consent with some recent personal examples.

To be blunt: Consent can be the difference between a spanking and sexual assault! 

Tops need to listen and comply with the safe words when they’re used.
Bottoms have to use their safe words when needed and vocalize their boundaries and limits.
Communication, whether verbal or non verbal is key for enjoyable scenes. 

Consent isn’t always sexy – negotiation can be awkward, but it’s necessary! We talk about some of the go-to questions before you negotiate a scene with someone new. Have others we don’t cover here? Let us know!

Some of the Spanko!Podcast spankees have had less than pleasant scenes this past year, and we want everyone to learn these important topics with spanking so everyone can have a good time!  

You live and learn to be more explicit with your limits so that your boundaries are not crossed. We hope our experiences can help you learn to avoid some of these pitfalls.

 

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