Consensual Non-Consent

How do you get to experience Consensual Non-Consent? 
After years of communication <3 
After reading the room. 
After working with your partner. 

What is it? How is it done? What does this complicated term even mean? This is definitely a level 201 episode. We encourage you to listen to our listed episodes below if we’re just starting in the scene. 

Definitely listen to this episode as well. However, be aware that this kind of dynamic and relationship comes with time – we do not encourage you to practice consensual non-consent for your first scene no matter how much of a fantasy it may be.  Fantasies are very different from your very first scene. Maybe one in a million Spankos have had their fantasy fulfilled in their first scene.

You may get the opportunity to practice CNC during organized role play at a party or perhaps even while in character with your partner. Please remember you can always advocate for yourself and use your safe word. Have some self respect and remember to enforce your boundaries. It’s your body – your choice. It is a Privilege for those to those who gained access to your body. A privilege you can revoke at any time.  Go and have fun and enjoy all the spankings.

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Blanket Consent

How big is your blanket and how many people have access to that blanket? Do you share different blankets with different types of people? join us on this episode and find out what we mean by blanket consent. 

generally people don’t automatically obtain blanket consent, please be responsible when you play with others; practice self advocacy and learn to establish your boundaries, though this episode is not about that. We just want to remind you that it is your body and it is your choice. 

There are fantasies and then there’s reality. Sometimes it takes a lot of communication to be able to fulfill our fantasies; other times it may be instant chemistry, but please be advised:  You don’t have blanket consent with everyone.

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Impact Play with Mr. Ben

Impact Play!? **Gasp!?** Some Spankos will cringe upon hearing spanking being referred to as “impact play.”

However, do you remember looking up “Spanking” in the dictionary? 

to strike especially on the buttocks with the open hand. 

We are literally having buttocks struck – causing impact – with either the hand or some sort of implement. 

“But it’s spanking! Stop ruining the sanctity of *my* fantasy.”

 

Join us as Mr. Ben shares with us his knowledge on what we as the Spanko- purist can learn from the BDSM community as far as communication and  consent. 

We can still learn and do better as a community as a whole. We owe ourselves this. A top is allowing themselves to strike another individual – pretty much assault – unless the receiver has consented. 

We hope this episode will leave an impact!

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Spanking University with Princess Kelley May

Education is so important in Kink. Both SpankoPodcast and Princess Kelley May both feel strongly about promoting education in the spanking scene. 

Possibly the busiest woman we know, Princess Kelley May was able to sit down with us at GASP and was generous enough to share a few minutes of her time.

Join us as we discuss Spanking University, her YouTube Channel, her passion for education, and many other related topics that are important to us as spankos including: 

  • Consent 
  • Limits
  • Boundaries
  • Safewords
  • Self-Advocacy
  • Technical Proficiency
  • And More

 

*We apologize for the audio quality, there was a computer issue that occurred during recording which was not noticeable until editing. (It gets better as you listen.)

 

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Communication at Parties

Sky and Eric were traveling home from a small house party and decided to record a discussion about the necessity of communicating while at parties. And yes, of course this all stemmed from Karina and some of her antics.

 

It can be difficult to ask for what you want, but it’s important to be able to use your words. And since people communicate differently at parties than they may at home, we’ll give you some personal examples as to why good communication is important.

 

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