Self-Advocacy pt. 2

We return with Self-Advocacy part 2.

Don’t forget to check out part 1 if you’ve missed it.

Join the Self-Advocacy Team from GASP 2026, who taught an amazing class, as they join us with some tips and tricks on how to advocate for yourself whether you’re a Top or a Bottom. 

Why self-advocacy? You can’t really have a good scene if you are worried if someone will do something you don’t want.  Think about what you’re comfortable tolerating- what you really enjoy- what is non-negotiable. In this episode you’ll hear when it’s the best time to think about your limits and boundaries at a party. Safety matters and protecting yourself from poorly negotiated scenes or predators is important!

And in TTWD, anything that’s not clearly negotiated is a consent violation. Yes. Touching someone’s butt without their permission is a problem. This is why consent matters!

Self-Advocacy pt. 1

Yes, I’d like fries with that!

It’s not just a delicious, salty treat, but also an easy acronym for ensuring consent.
F.R.I.E.S. is an easy way remember that consent is: 

• F: Freely Given
• R: Reversible
• I: Informed
• E: Enthusiastic
• S: Specific

If your consent doesn’t have F.R.I.E.S. then you might not fully enjoy your “meal” or play experience.

After a lovely class at GASP 2026, in which they used candy to discuss consent, and went through some fantastic role-playing, we had to have these lovely and hard-working ladies on the podcast to share their techniques for self-advocacy in spanking! 

It’s not easy to speak up for yourself, especially when many of us love to please our partners. But that’s exactly what being your own advocate is about. And for a fun scene, it’s important not just to please your partner, but to get your needs met and protect your own boundaries as well. 

Whether it’s salty or sweet, F.R.I.E.S. or candy, this discussion has something for every taste. 

There was just too much here for one episode, so do stay tuned for part 2.